Consent is sexy. 

My words: ​

Many people use various words to express consent, or the withdrawal of it. The most common is "no." Please note that I will use "no" and the red light system (red means stop, yellow is pause, and green is everything is fine).

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Respect:​

I respect your bodily and emotional autonomy. I will not call or text you on your phone number unless you have reached out to me first. Emails are deleted after thirty days. Similarly, I expect you to respect my boundaries of privacy by not asking nosey questions, lingering around my incall or hotel, or calling me at 1am. 

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Respect goes both ways. I ask that if I send you a private photo, you store it somewhere private and secure and do not share it with anyone else. Do not try to take illicit photos or videos of me, and do not make identifying social media posts about me. 

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Acceptable Actions: ​

Consent must be clearly expressed, enthusiastic, and mutual, with both verbal and non-verbal cues in alignment. Hesitation or ambiguity could indicate fawning, where a person acquiesces because they are uncomfortable saying “no.” If you have to ask me multiple times before I agree to do something with you, that is wheedling and not okay. Remember there is a delicate power dynamic in this relationship, and we both have fun only when we respect how fragile that can be. 

 

It's sexy to ask for consent, and to give/receive it. Just because you saw it in a video that you thought was sexy doesn't mean you don't have to ask.. Just because they don't ask in a porn doesn't mean they didn't carefully go over boundaries beforehand. Spanking, hair pulling, or even putting a hand on someone's neck can be extremely triggering and will not be tolerated without prompting. Always ask before you engage. Consent is sexy. 

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Things I Like, and Things I Don't:​

I like firm but not aggressive touch. I like sensual kissing, good conversation, checking in regularly with someone, and lots of cuddling. I don't like being licked, tickled, touched lightly, or grabbed roughly, and I don't like being kissed on the neck.  I don't like being pinched or fingered roughly. I do not tolerate humiliation or being demeaned. 

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Health:​

If I suspect you are sick or have an infection of some sort, I will end the appointment. If you are feeling under the weather, please be kind and stay home. ​

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I get regularly tested and practice safe sex policies including using protection and good hygiene. Please extend the same courtesy to me by being respectful with bodily fluids, washing your hands before the start of a session, and taking a shower before our session starts. In addition, avoid vigorous dental hygiene right before or during our date, as flossing or brushing your teeth can aggravate your gums allowing for greater risk of transmission and exposure to any bacteria. 

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Little Helpers: ​

Consent is hard under normal circumstances. It is impossible with excessive drink or drug use. I am flexible with a glass of wine or some light 420, but outside of that I expect you to be sober and able to make autonomous decisions, as will I be.