Consent is sexy.

Consent is agreement or permission expressed through affirmative, voluntary words or actions that are mutually understandable to all parties involved, to engage in a specific sexual act at a specific time.

My words:

Many people use various words to express consent, or the withdrawal of it. The most common is "no." Please note that I will use "no" and the red light system (red means stop, yellow is pause, and green is everything is fine).

Respect:

I respect your bodily and emotional autonomy. I will not call or text you on your phone number unless you have reached out to me first. Emails are deleted after thirty days. Similarly, I expect you to respect my boundaries of privacy by not asking nosey questions, lingering around my incall or hotel, or calling me at 1am.

Acceptable Actions:

It's sexy to ask for consent, and to give/receive it. For anything that involves something degrading, aggressive, painful, or unusual, you must ALWAYS ask beforehand. Just because they don't ask in a porn doesn't mean they didn't carefully go over boundaries beforehand. Spanking, hair pulling, or even putting a hand on someone's neck can be extremely triggering and will not be tolerated without prompting. Always ask before you engage. Consent is sexy.

Things I Like, and Things I Don't:

I like firm but not aggressive touch. I like sensual kissing, good conversation, checking in regularly with someone, and lots of cuddling. I don't like being licked, tickled, touched lightly, or grabbed roughly, and I don't like being kissed on the neck. I don't like being pinched or fingered roughly. I do not tolerate humiliation or being demeaned.

Little Helpers:

Consent is hard under normal circumstances. It is impossible with excessive drink or drug use. I am flexible with a glass of wine or some light 420, but outside of that I expect you to be sober and able to make autonomous decisions, as will I be.